I don't think I could of done this without the help of this forum. Thanks so much for your support. My mom is the only JW in my family and while she's disappointed, she said I'm still her daughter and that will never change. She respects my wishes to live my life to suit me now. I've been in this repressed religion since I was 14 (on my own, mom only got baptized 3 years ago) and I really don't know what's out there but I'm eager to find out.
Thinking of Leaving
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Why can't I just get over it and move on?
by Crumpet inmonths have passed now since mr c and i officially separated.
so why can't i get over it?
why am i still jealous?
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Thinking of Leaving
Hi Crumpet, sorry to hear about your hurt. From my experience it's the best thing to not communicate with that person, atleast until the healing process has ended. When you no longer have feelings for him or your loins are not acting up around him as you said lol, then I would try my best and stay away. Time does heal all wounds, but in order to help yourself, you need to move on.
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
ahm well you raised some valid points on the way out, but in my heart I feel I AM ready to do this. I feel no guilt whatsoever and if I had gone to the JC I would not be sorry or feel repentant. In the long run being DF is the best thing for me. I no longer have to be ashamed of anything and I am free to walk the road without fear or intimidation. I think I should consider moving though, I don't want to see my "friends" around the neighbourhood
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
Hi Scully, I went and confessed to two elders at the kingdom hall, then they set up the JC but I never showed up for the meeting. I knew it was enough for them to DF seeing as I had confessed. Incidentally, that was over two months ago, they sure waited a long time to DF me.
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
Hi Brigid, thanks for your kind words. This forum has really helped me to deal with this. I won't regret this decision, the only regret I have is that I'm losing a few valuable friends. Now my challenge is to make new ones in the "world" but I'm sure I won't have any trouble.
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
Hi Moshe, I really do feel free, it was such a burden to attend the meetings and the conventions as you say just bored me. I can't imagine what it was like going to a 7 day convention, that would of been brutal. I feel like my life is just beginning and I can't wait to see what the future holds
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
wow, you guys are great! Minimus I was DF for immorality
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
It's not that easy on the way out, she sends me emails special articles about JW's, experiences and so on, she comes and tells me of the latest gossip about people we both know. I think I have to tell her, the other day she asked me how many were at the memorial and when our assembly is, I didn't go to the memorial this year and do not know when the assembly is/was, I don't want those ackward moments to repeat themselves, know what I mean?
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
Now the hard part, how do I tell my co-worker, who is a JW, that I'm going to be DF sighhhhh, I think she will be very surprised
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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday
by Thinking of Leaving inthe elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.
the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".
i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.
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Thinking of Leaving
well actually, they called the house a few times, I never answered the phone, they left messages and I never returned their calls. They set up a judicial committee and I never went to the meeting. So they came to the house on Saturday morning (ofcourse they were out on service) and asked to speak with me. Normally I work Saturday mornings, but this Sat. I didn't. They have probably been driving by for weeks looking for my car. They happened to see it parked in front of the house and rang the bell. They asked to speak with me, my sister came and told me, I told her I don't want to see them. She went and relayed the message and they told her "tell her they just want one minute of her time", she came again to me (this time very angry with me for not speaking with them) and I told her I am not going to talk to them. That's when they gave her the message.
I guess I was selfish and let my sister, who isn't a JW, do the dirty work. She got over it anyhow and wasn't as angry as I thought. I just couldn't bare the thought of seeing them. This is hard. I saw one of my good friends, a JW, in the grocery store on Saturday and she waved at me, barely acknowledged me and I saw another "sister" and I told her about going to be DF. I looked at her and she had tears in her eyes. I guess I should be the one shedding tears for her, she's suffered from depression for years being in this religion. Most of the "sisters" from my hall were depressed. And to top it off, I heard the first guy I ever loved got engaged....what a weekend
Thanks for your comments and encouragement everyone. I am beginning to taste that freedom and it feels heavenly!